How To Deal With Your Friends Getting Engaged
Regardless of your relationship status there is a slew of emotions that hits you when a friend gets engaged and walks around with a love sick glow on her face. Since I have experienced both sides of the spectrum of wanting to throw my phone against the wall if I saw one more “I get to marry my best friend” Instagram post and now being the one with a ring on her finger, I thought we could have a #RealTalk about how to to deal with your emotions when all of your friends are getting engaged.
1. Jealousy
It’s human nature to feel a ping of jealousy when your friend says yes to the man of her dreams. My biggest piece of advice would be to accept it and embrace it. The sooner you come to terms that this is her time to relish in a new chapter the sooner you will soak in the energy that your time will come too. Walking around with a bitter chip on your shoulder will hurt everyone involved, including yourself. Inhale sincerity, exhale confidence, grab a glass and join in on the celebration.
2. Loss
Contrary to what some believe, your friend being engaged is not the death of a friendship. Yes, the social status of your friendship may change and your wild nights out may become a thing of the past but there’s no reason to mourn the loss of a friend. Even though she is gaining a husband she will always still need her girls by her side. If you have convinced yourself that the world is ending and your friendship is dunzo I would suggest to first and foremost unplug from social media and make a valid effort to focus on yourself. Whether it’s purge cleaning your closet or signing up for a bootcamp workout class – do something that will have a positive end result.
3. Stress
Here’s the deal, keeping up with day to day life is stressful enough and throwing the pressure of acting like the world is sunshine and rainbows when everyone else around you seems to be living a picture perfect love story is exhausting. Here’s the other part to that deal, you have got to be real with yourself and remember that no one has it all – not even your happily married friend with the beautiful children running around the perfectly decorated kitchen. All of the emotions that your feeling could possibly be brewing from something deeper. If that is the case, I would suggest taking the time to evaluate why you are feeling a certain way and make adjustments accordingly.
4. Anger
This is not the time or place to blow smoke out of your ears. This is the time and place to suit up and be one hell of a good friend. Although the struggle to find the balance can be hard, for the sake of your friendship, it must be achieved. There is no greater feeling than having your best friend look you in the eyes and feel her genuine happiness for your new chapter. Put on your big girl pants and shower the bride-to-be in joy and well wishes and I guarantee that when the tables are turned she will do the same for you.
