You're Not Too Busy
As a new week approaches, I wanted to pass along the reminder that there is so much more to life than to-do lists. We are all busy, every single one of us, in our own way. Someone asked me the other day, how are you? I sighed and brushed my hands through my hair. I hardly took a breath before I started to rattle off how crazy busy life was. Between moving across the country, planning a wedding, adjusting to a new lifestyle and running a business all on top of day to day activities I was talking a million miles an hour until I caught the sound of my voice reiterating how busy I was that made me stop dead in my tracks.
God bless sista, take a chill pill.
When did we do this to ourselves?
Why did we do this to ourselves?
Since when did kids become too busy to play in the dirt?
Since when did we become too busy to have face to face conversations?
How did we forget that we are human beings and not robots?
I’ve done it. You’ve done it. We have all done it. Freely tossing around the words “I’m too busy” without realizing the weight that phrase carries. Ready for a news flash? You are not too busy to go to the gym. You are not too busy to call your grandmother. You are not too busy to put your phone down. You are not too busy to close your eyes and feel the sun on your face. You are not too busy to ask your spouse how their day was and you are not too busy to listen to their answer.
I do not have PHD in psychology but I will confidently say that I believe, we as a society, use the notion of being busy as a crutch to validate any and all excuses. Besides leaning on a word to warrant certain situations saying we are sooooo busy has become a warped symbol of high status. If we are busy it must mean that we are important because we are wanted by others, right? To a degree, yes. To another degree, it’s a borderline lie. You do not need the word “busy” to aid as a self confidence booster. There is so much more to you than the avalanche of requests hitting your inbox. Eliminate the juju of being too busy to make time for the things that matter most, life is too damn short.
Why isn’t having slow meaningful conversations #trendy? When was the last time you sat down with your friends, without your phones, and just … talked? When was the last time you sat down to ask yourself, how am I doing? I challenge you to be the exception. Be the exception that is so in-tune with themselves that you don't thrive off the idea of having a booked schedule. Be the exception that can look another person directly in the eye and have a face to face conversation. Be the exception that takes time to taste the coffee hitting your lips and not the one rushing out the door as coffee spills all over your shirt.
